Hey Lightsquad,
so I have something on my heart and it’s supposed to make you rethink how to use social media and especially not let your feelings get hurt 🙂
Without any further ado, here are my thoughts:
It’s another Thursday evening and while watching GNTM, or another similar show where you are, you are uploading your (daily) picture.
You are very happy with this one, because you spent 2 hours just driving to the location and taking what feels like a million shots to get this one.
You proudly prepared a meaningful caption about how we should spend more time in nature and how it boosts our self awareness and turns down stress levels.
You hit post.
You engage with other people’s posts, because #communityovercompetition and get back to watching your tv show.
In the next advertisement break, you check your account. And see 15 likes.
In that moment your heart sinks, your smile turns upside down. You feel gutted, because, well usually you get at least 75 likes or more…That’s 60 likes less.
And also the comments you see are firstly just 2 and both of them the generic bot-like type:
Beautiful photo! Wish you a wonderful Thursday evening 🙂
You are disappointed, you are mad, you think of giving up doing any kind of business on social media, because what’s the point???
NO ONE LIKES OR ENGAGES ANYWAYS.
Sound familiar?
STOP
Right now. Just stop.
Take a breath!
I’ve been there, I’ve done that.
And you know what. Somehow I’m still on the platform, now not caring at all, how many likes or comments I get.
And you know why?
Because of a simple change of perception.
Just imagine, every social media like is a fudgeing real person coming up to you saying: “Hey, I really like the art you made. I really admire how much effort you put in. That’s awesome. I love it.”
Just imagine it. Now, back to the example. Just imagine 15 people came up to you saying similar words.
How does it feel?
Well, if you ask me, it feels hella fudgeing awesome.
Honestly just one real life compliment makes me feel seen, heard, appreciated. If I got 60 I would probably feel like I’ve worn some kind of aphrodisiac that would explain this behavior 😀
Just my 2 cents. But 2 cents that changed how I show up on social media and a perception shift how I unlinked my self worth from external validation.
SOCIAL MEDIA VS SELF WORTH
Just a few finishing words on social media and how it influences our self worth.
First of all, a lot of people, not all of them share their highlight reel and not an authentic reflection of how their life really is.
For that to happen, people would need to be filmed by a camera team for 24/7 and even then it’s just the mask people show towards their environment.
Second, comparing yourself in any kind of way is stupid.
Why?
Because we are all imperfect human beings with our own unique set of problems.
Granted some problems may seem vain compared to others.
But if you ever find yourself in victim mode again.
Just let me remind you that having a home with a bed and food already makes you richer than 75% of the world population.
Imagine how that number looks like if we talk about access to electronics including social media.
Yes, be fudgeing thankful for what you have and stop letting unimportant stuff like how many likes you get derail you from your self worth.
Because that’s what we, every single human on this earth, have in common.
Our pure existence is our worth.
If you struggle with victim mentality, creating your art without wanting external validation or other issues concerning a lack of selflove and life lust, you know I’m a spiritual transformation coach (and no, it’s not all woo woo, all growth is spiritual).
If that means changing your job, finding soulful friendships, losing 5 kg of body weight, I’m here to support you on your journey.
Of course only if you realize that having accountability ensures your success.
Just book your 30 min DISCOVERY CALL with me HERE!
And I’ll see you soon!
Until then, shine your light!
xx, Nirina
